What does it take to change things in your life? How do you make choices for your highest good? How do you transform things? The lesson of how simple it really can be was brought home to me today when I described Scully, our frail, elderly Thoroughbred, to someone. I realized in describing him that he has made several changes over the last few years. In a quiet, unassuming way he has taught us a simple, yet profound lesson in transformation. In a matter of a few short years, he has gone from someone who was fairly anxious, disliking any kind of change, to a peaceful rather doting fellow. Going from being unhappy with change and quite reactive to anything out of the ordinary, to being relaxed and quite unfazed. No-one asked him to change, no-one critisized him for his old way of being. In fact he made the transformation so seamlessly we hardly noticed. Only in hindsight can I see the major transformation he has made.
Perhaps it takes the right kind of environment, or the right kind of relationship ties or divine intervention, or a combination of all of these. But whatever it is, it is possible to make changes that serve your highest good better. Making a choice for transformation seems to be all it takes. All it requires is a willingness. That simple – willingness. A willingness to let go of what has held you back. A willingness to welcome that which you have wished for. A willingness to make different choices each day. Scully has taught me that the next time I say “I wish…” or “I’d like…” I am instead going to say “I am willing to…”.
September and the lesson continues
With the coming of spring everything seems fresh and new and the smells are just wonderful. And with it comes an appreciatio for the renewal of all of nature. Perhaps even my own nature. Scully in his dotage has taught us such profound lessons of late in the art of transformation. I guess with his frailness and continuous hunger as his old body slowly but surely gives up its capacity to absorb nutrients properly, as the physical body winds down, there is a closeness to spirit and the process of moving to greener pastures. And with the concern for his well-being has come attention I guess we usually reserve for our ‘working’ horses.
In sharing with a recent group of Equine Facilitated Psychotherapy practitioners, Scully gave me such beautiful food for thought. He communicated messages to several individuals in the group through a heart connection. There were messages around ‘letting go’ and also around ‘forgiveness’, both of which are such important elements I believe in any process of transformation. And then there was quite a hard truth around fear. What struck me when Jane shared this, was that perhaps it is not death we fear, but rather dying alone. As relationship-beings we are created in union, we spend out first months of life in union, we are birthed in union. So then a desire to die surrounded by the unions we have chosen does not seem so far-fetched.